Newsletter 2014

Dr. Robert Heller’s Mind-Body Newsletter

March, 2014

 Meditation Matters

In today’s multi-tasking, plugged in lifestyle our brain can easily become overloaded, leading to making careless mistakes and experiencing increased muscle tension, irritability and shortness of temper.

On of the major sources of the triggers for this type of stress involves traveling associated with airports. The need to be constantly alert, dealing with timelines, searches, baggage, all sorts of people coming and going, announcements of all kinds, various lights, etc., can make even a planned vacation become stressful.

I was pleased to discover an innovative idea at the Albany International Airport – a meditation room. Available for prayer, relaxation and/or meditation, this small peaceful room is an oasis to the air traveling public. Free to all and open 24/7, close the door and you could be in a yoga studio or small church or synagogue. The darkened room even has a set of bolsters for those preferring seated mediation. Can you say Namaste?

STOP in the name of pain

There is no gain with pain. Pain is a warning you need to pay attention to or suffer the consequences. Unless you are a professional athlete, making big bucks in a play- offs or finals in your sport, playing when hurt or injured can easily lead to more serious injuries, keep you out longer and possibly shorten or eliminate your ability to play in the sport you love.

Smart athletes will heed the warning and endure the short-term disappointment and frustration of not playing so that their recovery can take place more quickly and completely.

Stay in the Present

As they say in the stock market, “ Past performance is not guarantee of future returns.”

Champions fall and newcomer’s rise. In an instant, a second – things can change.

Successful performers don’t rest on their past successes but continue to strive to remain on top. Those who want to be successful, respect, but never fear their opponents. Instead, they seek to do their best and let whatever happens happen.

Strategies for Success: Start Your Day with A Written Plan

Get up early enough to devote 15 minutes to planning, reviewing and if needed, revising your activities during the day. Write down your appointments, meetings, classes, errands, phone calls, etc. Set priorities and be realistic in what you can accomplish. Don’t schedule things so tightly that if one thing is off, it affects the rest of your day. Include meals, time for breaks, exercise and relaxation. Avoid sitting for more than an hour at a time. Stretch, breath or walk at least a minute each hour. You will rarely accomplish everything, so take pleasure in what you did do and then plan for the next day.

Upcoming Events

On April 3rd, I will be participating the Faulk Center’s leadership program. Located in Boca Raton, this community counseling center provides free and low cost services to adults individually and in groups along with providing training for advanced mental health students, giving them the opportunity to work with clients under supervision.

On April 27th, I will be giving a SPORTS PSYCHOLOGY presentation to the Emerald Point Country Club in Delray Beach.

Later this month, I hope to visit the newest addictions treatment facility in Palm Beach County, Lucida.  I am especially interested in their offering of a SMART Recovery program as an alternative to the traditional AA approach. Several of my publications, including “Freedom from Alcohol” are based on this approach and can be purchased on my website, www.cogntivetherapy.cc. The brand new facility specializes in substance abuse and mental disorders. I will report on my visit next month.

On May 31st, I will be presenting on “ How to Have Fun and Profit Through Public Speaking” at the annual conference of the Florida Division of the United States Professional Tennis Teacher’s Association. The meeting will be held at Club Med in Port St. Lucie.

Remember to e- mail your questions, comments and suggestions for upcoming newsletter.

Have a great month.

Dr. Robert Heller

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Dr. Robert Heller’s Mind Body Newsletter

 February 2014

This month reminds us to be grateful for what we have. For those of us living in Florida, we have enjoyed relatively mild temperatures and been saved the suffering caused by the ice, snow and freezing temperatures endured by most of the country. So if it gets a bit cold for a few days once in a while, count your blessings.

Expect the Unexpected

In practicing for my presentation to the Palm Chapter of the Florida Psychological Association on, “How to have fun and profit through public speaking”, I was all excited about the PowerPoint presentation I had prepared. I even had a number of different adapters for the projector that was on site where the program was being held. I left early enough with a full tank of gas and directions to get to the facility to scope out the room, get set up and have some time to relax before others arrived. All went well until we discovered the projector light was broken, could not be replaced and consequently, there would be NO PowerPoint slides for the audience to view. I quickly scrambled to re-arrange things to attempt to do the best I could with what I had.  No time to panic. Only a few minutes to make lemonade from lemons!  All in all, the presentation turned out quite well and provided a great reminder to always, “expect the unexpected.”

Dealing with Grief

Last week I attended a memorial service for John L. Benn, a local tennis celebrity I had known for a number of years. John recently died at the ripe of age of 94 and had played tennis 6 days a week up until the age of 91. John was a kind, humble man with a wide smile and wonderful stories. I had the chance to play with him and against him in doubles some years back and even when his legs slowed him down, he never lost his competitive spirit. I hadn’t seem him for a while and was saddened to learn about his passing, but pleased at the family’s invitation to attend the memorial to celebrate a  life well lived.

Saving Mr. Banks

The new film about Walt Disney’s efforts to get a reluctant author to allow him to make the movie, Mary Poppins, is really more about the impact early childhood trauma has on individuals, sometimes even decades later. Fortunately, with psychological treatment methods like EMDR, many individuals can be helped to overcome much of this suffering, leave it in the past and get on with their lives in healthier and happier ways.

Australian Open

For tennis lovers around the world, this major tournament brings out the best in the best. This year’s match results also pointed out that you can never rest on your laurels.  Many of the top seated players were knocked out in the early rounds by lower ranked players and even by some newcomers who were relatively unknown. The lesson appears to be, if you have talent, train hard and try your best, good things can happen no matter who you compete against and irrespective of the odds. I do my best to live this philosophy and cultivate it in all my clients . Keep swinging!

Until next month,

Dr. Robert Heller

If you know someone else who’d be interested in receiving these mailings on mind-body skills and peak performance trainings, please encourage them to sign up through my websites, http://www.mentalskillstennis.comhttp://www.cognitivetherapy.cc or send an e-mail to info@robertheller.net  with the subject heading, “ATTN: add to e-mail list”.

Please forward all questions, feedback and comments to Dr. Heller at info@robertheller.net

Be sure to check out the new blogs and articles on each of the websites (www.cognitivetherapy.cc or www.mentalskillstennis.com) as they are updated fairly regularly.

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Dr. Robert Heller’s Mind-Body Newsletter

 January 2014

“Quote of the Month”

“Those who fail to plan, plan to fail”

Most people who make New Year’s resolutions fail to keep them. One of the main reasons is that they rarely plan out the details of how they will accomplish these goals.  Perhaps the most common goal individuals have for the New Year is to LOSE WEIGHT. Yet, most will fail to either lose the weight or to maintain the weight they might lose. Common goals for many folks are things like, “lost weight” and “exercise more”. 

Here are some tips from my pocket sized self help guidebook, “Weight Management” that may help you be more successful in reaching your New Year’s resolution in this important area.

Motivation and Weight Loss

Losing and maintaining weight loss in today’s society and culture is an uphill battle. To be successful you must be focused, motivated, determined and able to withstand pressures and challenges from many different fronts.

  1. Develop a positive mindset.

  Losing weight is like learning a new language. It takes a long time to practice before skills are incorporated into your mind and lifestyle.  

                “Others get their weight off, and I can too. I just have to pay attention, that’s all.”

2. Encourage specific efforts.

Drink more water, eat less sugar.

Calories count! Pay attention to what you put into your mouth.

Eat your calories-don’t drink them.

Muscles burn calories. Keep up your physical activities.

3. Get support from others.

If you are not using a professional counselor or taking part in a commercial or non-profit support group, surround yourself with people who know, support and respect what you are doing.

4. Avoid pessimists

Stay away from people who are negative. “ I made this great cake, have some.” “Start your diet tomorrow.” “It’s so hard to lose weight, I’ve given up.” “It’s all in the genes, just accept it.”

5. Take a good look at fat.

Visit the meat section of your supermarket. Ask the butcher to show you a 5-poind bag of fat! Ask yourself, “Do I really want that in my body?”

For many more practical tips and strategies to effectively manage your weight, order “Weight Management” from the products page at www.cognitivetherapy.cc

Overcoming Public Speaking Anxiety

Public speaking anxiety continues to be the number one greatest fear most Americans have. As many as 75% of us are estimated to be impacted by this fear to some extent.  In fact, even professional psychologists suffer from public speaking fear.

On Sunday, January 12, I will be teaming up with a colleague to present a 2-hour program to help professionals become more comfortable and confident in speaking in front of others. By helping them get out and speak, not only will they recruit more clients but will hopefully provide the public greater access to services that they need and want.

In my own work with individual clients, I use methods like cognitive behavioral therapy, hypnosis and EMDR along with recommending practice and exposure opportunities like participating in a group like Toastmaster’s and reading classic books of the subject like those written by Dale Carnegie.

Public speaking skills are associated with greater success in school and the workplace in addition to building confidence in interpersonal relations.

If you are searching for a way to become more comfortable and effective in your social and public speaking skills, contact me for a free brief phone consultation to learn more about how different methods and approaches can benefit you. I can be reached at 561 451-2731.

Life Long Learning

As a psychologist, I am required to take 20 hours on continuing education every year to be up to date on helping my clients. Most years, I take many more because I love what I do and there are so many areas of interest that I have.

In addition to continuing education in psychology, I take classes in Yoga, Tennis and Dancing. I have found that Yoga classes have improved not only my yoga practice but my ability to integrate helpful practices with clients. Although I am a certified tennis teaching professional, taking regular lessons has not only improved my own game, but helped me in working with the high performance athlete’s I see. Dance classes not only keep me on my toes but also maintain a certain “humbleness” in knowing how much further I can progress.

I wish you all success in your efforts to make yourself, your loved ones and the world, a little bit better in the coming year.

Happy New Year!

      Dr. Robert Heller

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