How to deal with bullying is mostly about building your own self esteem so you care less about what other people may think, say and even do. If you feel good about yourself, your strength will be a deterrent towards bullies. Bullies seek out those who appear weak- physically, mentally and emotionally.
Once you can accept yourself WITH your weaknesses, limitations and imperfections, you can stand up for yourself. Standing up to bullies may include ignoring them. Bullies are looking for a reaction. If they can’t get a rise from you, they often will go away. When bullies persist, assertiveness can be taught. Learning to say, “No!” “Stop it!” “I will report you”! in a strong voice sends a message that you are not someone to be messed with.
It is also important to help children understand that the bully is acting out of weakness and fear rather than strength. Their attempt to dominate reflects their own sense of inadequacy.
Additionally, children should be taught and rehearse practicing typical bullying situations so that they are more confident about when and how to react.
In learning how to deal with bullying I believe that children should be taught self defense and how to protect themselves against physical abuse and assaults. This applies to adult women as well and should be done under the direction of a professional instructor or course.
When I counsel children and adolescents, I often rehearse and role play on how to handle difficult situations so they can better decide when to ignore, when to run and when to assert themselves. But again, the most important skill is acquiring a strong sense of self worth that is largely resistant to most forms of bullying behavior.
Children may not have control of being bullied but the can control their reactions and responses to it.