In today’s world there is a strong tendency to avoid responsibility, make excuses and blame everyone and everything for situations we don’t like or results we are not happy with: “It’s not my job.” “It’s his fault.” “If I only had more time.” “It’s because of the rain… wind … sun …”, etc. One part of cognitive therapy teaches individuals to think and say positive things about themselves. Through repetition of positive thoughts read out loud, you can make effective changes in your behaviors and life.
I believe taking personal responsibility is related to mental health. In cognitive behavioral therapy, I teach clients to condemn the behavior but not the person. I also teach and practice the use of affirmations; sayings, thoughts or phrases that are repeated at regular intervals.
Here are some ideas adapted from an article written by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller:
– I am responsible for the thoughts I think.
– I am responsible for the feelings I feel.
– I am responsible for the choices I make.
– I am responsible for my actions.
– I am responsible for how I use my time.
– I am responsible for my relations with others.
– I am responsible for what I learn.
– I am responsible to accomplishing my goals.
– I am responsible for my values, morals and ethics.
– I am responsible for what I read and listen to.
– I am responsible for what I believe.
– I am responsible for what I say to others.
– I am responsible for my happiness.
Use these affirmations regularly and see what difference they make in your life.