Dr. Robert Heller

What does your body language say about you? How do facial expressions and gestures affect others around you? 

Research suggests that more of what we communicate happens through out body rather than our words. At a recent presentation I gave on “Mental Skills for Tennis”, participants shared how their partner’s body language affected them: an anguished look, dropped head, lack of eye contact and related behaviors is often interpreted as disappointment, disapproval and rejection. 

Often times, we are not even aware of our non-verbal behaviors. As a psychologist, I help my clients recognize how their body reflects their thoughts and feelings and how to change their responses to stress. Developing awareness and control over our non-verbal behaviors can help individuals get along better whether it is on the tennis court or in relationships at work or in ones personal life. 

An important part of this process is based on cognitive therapy which helps individuals see the connection between their thoughts and feelings. They are then shown alternative ways to view the situation and practice responding in new ways to the old triggers. 

I detail these strategies in a number of self-help books I wrote including, “Manage Your Stress” and “Anger Management”, which are available on my website, www.cognitivetherapy.cc

“People are disturbed not by things but by the view they take of them”. This famous quote by the ancient Greek philosopher, Epictetus is the foundation of one of the most powerful and influential approaches to mental health of our time, “ Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy”. This approach, developed by psychologist, Dr.Albert Ellis has transformed the field of psychotherapy and helped millions of people overcome negative emotions and in many cases, saved their lives.

I had the good fortune to study with Dr.Ellis and some of the finest teachers in the world at his institute more than 30 years ago. Since that time, I have used the principles of practices of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) to improve the lives of hundreds of clients and have hopefully positively influenced others through my self-help guidebooks (www.cognitivetherapy.cc) and lectures to the public and professional audiences. 

Often times, individuals who have been suffering for years and have tried all sorts of medications and different therapies have found REBT and related cognitive behavioral therapy to make a huge difference in how they think, feel and behave. 

Although my principle office is in Boca Raton, Florida I have found that distance coaching through the telephone and video (skype) has helped me reach individuals that do not have an REBT or CBT therapist nearby. 

For more information on REBT visit www.albertellis.org