“Strategies for Performing at your Best”
Quote of the Month
“It ain’t over ’til it’s over”- Yogi Berra
One of the obvious understatements by the former New York Yankee baseball catcher reflects the rational for never giving up and staying in the fight until the end.
Coming From Behind
As I watched one of the world’s major tennis championships this week, the SONY Open Tennis, I was reminded how many of the eventual winners had actually lost the first set and how even when they appeared out of the match, they found a way to come back and prevail. Most of these athlete’s weren’t even born when Yogi Berra was playing baseball, but they certainly reinforce his quote and how the right mental attitude and possibly some adjustment in strategy, can be powerful tools for success.
Here’s the takeaway; think about a time when you seemed to be on the brink of failure, but came back to win or succeed. Think about someone you know who has done so as well. Finally, think about a role model – a person you admire who has done so. Then, the next time you find yourself “in the hole”, rather than giving in, DIG IN and do your best until the very end.
Balancing Your Confidence
This past couple of months has brought to light the tricky balancing act in being confident as seen through the experience of the Miami Heat basketball team of the NBA as they continued their winning streak until it ended after 23 consecutive wins – the second highest number in professional basketball history. Part of maintaining the success is not getting overconfident with your wins. According to Lebron James, “We know that we can be beat on any night if we don’t come in with the mindset to play our game.” Even when playing well, coach Eric Spoelstra said, “I always look for areas that we can improve upon.” Center Chris Bosh said of his team, “You just have guys who really stay on each other. Nobody really gets ahead of themselves because we know that we have to stay humble and that is part of this job. You just have to deal with it. If you have success, you take it in stride and travel on to the next game.” Records and titles don’t matter much once the game starts. According to all star Dwayne Wade, “You have to dig. We need to earn each win.”
Winning players and winning teams seem to have winning attitudes and top notch mental skills, in addition to skills and talents. If you have them, use them. If you don’t, learn them!
Book of the Month
“Yoga – The Path to Holistic Health” by B.K.S. Iyengar
As a holistic psychologist, I seek to integrate the best practices from many disciplines in my work with clients, whether it is individuals suffering from major depression and anxiety or elite athletes seeking to perform at their best.
B.K.S. Iyengar is considered by many to be one of the world’s leading yoga teachers with yoga studios based on his approach in more than 40 countries and thousands of studios around the world. Overcoming many diseases as a child through the practice of yoga he has continued to practice and develop yoga over the past 75 years. Now, at the ripe old age of 94, he continues to practice 2 hours a day and teach classes in yoga therapy at his home in India. He must be doing something right! The book which explains many of the most popular classical yoga postures in great detail and clear pictures also helps us understand that yoga is much more than exercise or stretching. It is a holistic approach to life, physical health and stress reduction. Iyengar integrates breathing practices, food, spirituality, attitude, family values and much more in this 432-page book.
I found that there are many similarities between this ancient practice of yoga and the modern forms of cognitive therapy and rational emotive behavior therapy that I use with my own clients. Iyengar’s path to holistic health would make a great addition to anyone interested in the mind-body connection.
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), a highly effective form of Cognitive Therapy developed by Dr.Albert Ellis has been shown to be extremely useful in alleviating a wide variety of emotional problems including anxiety, depression, anger, addictions and much more.
I recently presented on this approach to psychology interns and graduate students at the Center for Group Counseling in Boca Raton, Florida. This facility provides free and low cost counseling services to the community. I was happy to give back and help in educating future therapists about how they might incorporate the REBT method in working with clients.
Supervision and Consultation in Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy
This new service is being offered to licensed mental health professionals seeking training, supervision and / or certification as an REBT practitioner. Contact Dr. Heller at info@robertheller for further details.
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Dr. Robert Heller
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